Being new to blogging I will set the stage for you to get to know us! I am a single mum to THE most amazing 3 year old boy in the world. We never have a dull moment and I am trying my best to be the best I can and learning as we both grow up!
I sometimes cant sleep because I have so many thoughts circulating in my head, worries, fears and aspirations for both myself and my little man! I really hate the stereotype that is sometimes attached to you when you are a single mum, I have tried and experienced all sides of being a single mum and trying to get the best possible life for us, I have stayed at home, worked part time, worked full time, studied and worked etc and I really think that nobody should judge the decision you make and label you , it is so important as a mum to find your niche, discover what you are good at and enjoy and pursue this in order to fulfil your potential and therefore show your children how to be happy and how to work towards what they want!
My little boy has had a few ups and downs so far in life, he has skin problems, allergies, anaemia and refuses to sleep, and so you can imagine the dramas in our house coupled with the fact he is a monkey at the best of times, don't get me wrong it is hard work but I would not change it for the world, you have to take what is thrown at you in life and do your best.
At the moment he is in full time nursery and I am working full time, I was unable to continue with my studies as the course placements were extremely demanding time wise (13 hour shifts) and there was no stable routine for my son and it really affected his behaviour and he struggled to cope with not knowing whether he is coming or going and so I had to make the difficult decision to leave uni and get full time 9-5 work to support us. I feel that it is important for me to work, I have been criticised for working full time by some people who think he should be with me and not at nursery full time, however , it is important to me to earn my own money and provide us with a good lifestyle and also for me to have some sense of self worth, which I get through work, this may sound selfish to some but when he grows up I want him to have values and work for what he wants ion life and not expect things to be handed to him.
I think that as his dad does not live with us we do have issues surrounding discipline ! He does not listen to me and seems to have little respect for me when I ask him to do things, this behaviour manifests itself mainly at night time, I have tried all the supernanny ideas (naughty step, returning to bed etc) but my little man is so unbelievably head strong( a littl elike me i think) that it can be an all night battle , and so I am always on the look out for tips on managing challenging behavious(hint hint), putting his behaviour aside he is a very bright little boy and never ceases to amaze me and so hopefully this indicates that I am doing something right!! :)
The purpose of this blog for me is for me to have an outlet and put things down in writing to try and keep my head clear and focussed and hopefully put my life into perspective a little bit , as sometimes you cant see the wood for the trees can you?? and sometimes things are not always as bad as they seem, I also want to use it to keep a record of the progress of our life as we have just come out of a difficult period (daddy leaving, starting work, little mans health probs and family illness) and so at thje moment things are just beginning to come back around and it would be nice to see our progress on paper so to speak .
I also have a man in my life who I have been seeing for just over a year but we are far from being a family unit as yet, he has a child the same age and this also is a learning curve for all of us and so it would be nice to see if this situation improves!!!
I shall keep you all updated on our little soap opera of life and see if this helps to clear my mind :)
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